I have a horrible tendency to compare my life to other persons. I compare myself to friends who in my eyes have had much more success than I have, I compare myself to other mothers who seem to have it so much more together about motherhood than I do, and I even compare myself to those I know with chronic pain and think: “what the hell, I should be doing that well!” It can eat a person alive comparing their lives to those of others.
I’m sure there are some that look at me and think: How does she love playing with her daughter so much or how does she have the motivation to work out every day or even how the hell does she manage chronic pain without any pain medicine?? I honestly do not know if anyone compares themselves to me but I find women in general have a tendency to compare their lives to other women. Shit, we look at magazine covers and wish we looked like the photo shopped Fitness models.
Comparison is the thief of joy I once read. The mom I see whose eight month old baby sleeps through the night and eats only organic food may be feeling inadequate in a million different areas of her life. The woman I see making a ton of money as a lawyer may have a terrible marriage and be secretly crying herself to sleep every night. Who knows??
As a mother, as a wife, as a college graduate, and as a woman with chronic pain I know I am doing the best I can at this very moment. I may be on chapter nine or eleven….it is all relative.
We all need to stop comparing our lives to others and just focus on our life today, this moment. We are all doing the best we can.