“Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.”
One of the biggest stressors a person put’s upon themselves is trying to be someone they are not to impress others or to “make” people like them. I know for years I put this stress on myself. From the moment I entered seventh grade with half a shaved head du to brain surgery I worked every moment of every day trying to force people to like me. The one person who I was myself around remains one of my best friends to this day. All the other people from that year that I was trying so hard to impress and prove I was “normal” are not even a part of my life. What a waste of time and energy.
Over the years following my accident chronic pain increased and increased. I was the loneliest person in the world and I did everything possible to try and make people like me. From peer pressure (which doesn’t just happen during our teen years) to laughing at jokes I didn’t even understand the meaning of (kind of like Joey from Friends!) My closest friends today are still the people that knew the real me during my best of times and my worst of times of chronic pain.
My whole world changed the first week I was a part of the Mayo Clinic Pain Rehab Center. I could be the REAL ME!!!! Everyone that was a part of my life there had chronic pain and I could just be myself. What a freeing feeling. From that week forward I have been the real Jessica. Turns out, I’m pretty awesome. If we all just were ourselves our stress levels would decrease a great deal. I’m a very outspoken, silly, outlandish, fun “crazy” person. I do not put on acts in front of people. What you see if what you get. My friends and family laugh out of embarrassment at times while food shopping with me or just taking a walk because I do have an odd sense of humor and do not hide it. I like the real me and the people that love me like her too. The people that do not are not meant to be in my life.
One way to relieve stress and therefor some of the symptoms of chronic pain is to stop giving a shit what others think of you. It just isn’t worth it. Who cares if someone doesn’t like you!? Does it really matter in the long run. Our world is very overpopulated especially the state I live in. You will find people where you can just be yourself!!!