It is that time of year where many of us begin stressing about the holidays and worrying about money, lack there of, traveling, presents etc. I read a funny quote recently that said: “Only in America do we spend the day after Thanksgiving (a holiday to spend time being grateful for what we have) knocking people down in every store possible trying to get the best deals on gifts…Black Friday.” Every other commercial I see is a different store announcing they will be open on Thanksgiving trying to lure people in as fast as possible to buy things fast. I imagine much of our country will speed through Thanksgiving as fast as possible in order to get to Walmart and Kids R Us. Is this a lesson I want to teach my daughter and future children? No. We as human beings truly need a day to breathe, relax, and count our many blessings. I wish we as a nation could do this every day but if all I can get is one day out of three hundred and sixty-five, I’ll take it.
A lot has happened this week: some moments great, some difficult, some just blah. People with chronic pain live on a roller coaster sometimes. Oh the ups and downs of chronic pain. What will I remember from this week? I will not remember laying in bed last night trying to focus on my book as my pain kept screaming at me to pay attention to it. I will not remember my daughter throwing a tantrum at the supermarket. I will not remember some of the loneliness I felt throughout this week. I will remember playing in the leaves with my daughter. My one year old likes to be clean and can be mildly obsessive compulsive when it comes dirt on her fingers or leaves in her hair. However, once she saw her mother jump head first into a huge pile of leaves at the playground her toddler OCD went out the window. We rolled around and threw leaves and got dirty for at least thirty minutes. That is what I will remember from this week, maybe even this month. It truly is the little things in life that mean the most. Before I started managing my chronic pain well every memory I had revolved around pain and I sure as hell would not have been playing in leaves.
I do not care whether you have chronic pain or not, we really need to simplify things in our lives and focus on the little moments. Those little, however amazing moments are what we will remember. Money problems will be here, health issues will come and go, life with or without chronic pain will be a roller coaster at times. So try and be grateful for those little things. My daughter will never remember the presents she receives this coming Christmas but hopefully she will see this picture of her and myself one day and realize the lessons I want to instill in her.