“We do not see things the way they are. We see things the way we are.” Today is January 15th and in the past week I have many different comments from various people regarding the weather. What I found most interesting yesterday while I was in our local Wa Wa was the difference in two person’s perceptions of the weather. One person said to me: “Can you believe it? Winter has just begun and it is only going to get worse.” Not even five minutes later a different person said to me: “Spring is right around the corner!!! Soon you will be able to take your daughter outside all the time.” Talk about the whole theory of the “glass empty/glass full” concept.
We are not always able to change the situations we are faced with. I cannot go back in time and put a helmet on my head that summer day I fell off my bike. If I had been wearing a bike helmet I most likely would not have had brain surgery and possibly may have avoided chronic pain for life. I cannot change that. I have to live with that every day of my life. I make the best of it! I have a choice to turn something terrible that happened in my life into something positive. Every day I receive more emails from people who are following my blog thanking me. I am not making a huge difference in the world as I wish I was but I am doing something positive with a deck of cards that could have easily left me in misery and self destruction for life.
I cannot wait to have another child. If I had one wish it would be to be pregnant. I have spent days and days re-living my miscarriages and stressing about why I am not pregnant. I know for a fact that I will have another child so why am I looking at this so negatively. What is that going to do? Since the new year I have been focusing on how lucky I am to have the greatest daughter in the world. A privilege that is denied to many. Sometimes we need to change the way we are looking at the situations in our life. This is not easy!!! I know that first hand. I am here as living proof that we can all take awful things that happen to us and find a way to turn into something positive. Spring is right around the corner, for now I am going to enjoy cuddling in bed under lots of covers with the people I love.