“Learning to ignore things is one of the great paths to inner peace.” Unknown
How often are you bothered by the opinion of others or worse let the opinion of other’s bring you down or change what you know in your heart to be right? We all deserve and need inner peace in order to make the most of our lives. Only you know what is right for you so why do we continue to allow other’s thoughts bring us down? I will be quite honest, I spend way too much of my valuable energy thinking or getting angry with the statements and actions of others. I will give you a simple example that actually has zero to do with my chronic pain but nonetheless has affected my pain levels at time.
If you have been following my blog you know that I am very excited to get pregnant and have more children. I love my family of three and my daughter is the most important thing in my life. People often assume chronic pain must be more challenging as a mother but most of the time my two year old is the greatest weapon against my thoughts regarding pain. Today is a big day for me. I am going to a fertility doctor this afternoon for my first appointment in my road to getting pregnant. We have been trying for a long time and have made a decision to seek help getting pregnant. I have had countless people give me their opinions about my choice to seek a fertility doctor. Not once did anyone’s comments change my mind about this very important choice but I have let it get to me in ways that I should not have allowed. I only have myself to blame for that. I am a thirty two year old mother who has beat brain surgery, had two miscarriages, and manages chronic pain naturally. I know what I want out of this world and have come to a point in my life where I trust my choices and intuition. I cannot wait to give my daughter a sibling and have zero doubt in my mind that this will happen. Zero. Today is a day I have been waiting for, for months. I am very excited to begin this crazy journey that yes includes doctors but has nothing to do with chronic pain. Everyone will always have an opinion about choices we make in our lives. We cannot change how other people act, we can only change how we react to their actions. I saw this quote early this morning and I wanted to yell: “YES! THIS IS IT!”
Chronic pain or not, we all need to stop listening to the opinions of others. Not always, as our loved ones may have important, loving insights that may be quite useful in our lives. For instance, when I was at the Mayo Clinic and accepted into the Pain Rehab Center I called my dad right away once I learned their philosophy. I did not want to have to learn to live with the pain, did not want to get off any medications, and refused to think I could not find a cure. However, after many tearful conversations with my dad he convinced me to give it a shot. Thank God! I hope that I would have given it a chance no matter what my father said but his extra push and wisdom drove me in the right direction. I was also such a mess at the time that I needed that guidance more than ever.