“When things are not adding up in your life, start subtracting.”
It took me to become an “adult” with chronic pain to learn that happiness is sometimes having less. I believe all people would be happier if they focused on the simple things in their lives especially the things that money cannot buy. People with chronic pain are often forced into subtracting things from their lives but maybe this does not have to be a bad thing. It is all the way we look at things. For example, I had to leave a boyfriend in my past because he loved drinking and smoking and it was very detrimental to my management with chronic pain. I had to subtract this person from my life because I did not and could not change him but knew that I would lead a much happier, healthier life without this person in my world. I have had to let friends go because they just did not understand my healthy lifestyle and at the time I thought it was such a horrible thing but it turns out less is so much more. I can count the number of true friends I have on one hand but I love these people so much and know they support me no matter what my choices are. I had to let go of a very well paying social work position because it was damaging my health. I was working ten hour days with no breaks, no lunches, and definitely no time to incorporate my chronic pain management program into my day. It was either the job, or my health. No brainer!
Some of the happiest people I have ever met have very little. I never had much in my life and am able to appreciate the little things. I would rather spend the day with my two year old at the playground then buy her an expensive toy. Kids do not remember objects, they remember activities. Think back to your childhood and your favorite memory: I doubt it was your barbies or matchbox cars.
It is okay to let go of the things that are holding you back from your health or purpose. Try and focus on the simple things this weekend. Money will never buy you happiness, I promise. Focus on the people and things you love and get rid of whatever does not serve you.