McGill Pain Scale: Chronic Pain NO Joke!

If you follow my blog on chronic pain you know I rarely if ever use the word pain.  My approach to managing chronic pain is to practice not thinking about the pain and using natural techniques daily.  To friends, family, and my readers I say: “I am having a difficult day” if the pain is just unbearable so everyone knows I am not being rude and no one asks me: “What’s wrong?”  Asking what is wrong to a person with chronic pain is close to as annoying as when someone says: “Wow, you look tired.”  This post is more for loved ones of those with chronic pain as people suffering from chronic pain already can feel how awful the pain is non stop. 

One of the most frustrating aspects of chronic pain is the disease is usually invisible.  After my bike accident resulting in brain surgery I clearly looked like I was close to death as visitors saw me in the ICU with half a shaved head, tubes running through each part of my body, and bruises/breaks on both sides of my body.  The scars get covered with hair, the bruises fade, the tubes come out, and the breaks heal.  However, the pain never goes away.  Once I realized I had chronic pain I wanted those bruises, tubes, and scars back more than anything.  That way everyone could visibly see I was suffering.   When I say that my bike accident and brain surgery were easier to deal with than chronic pain I am not kidding.  That was a cake walk compared to a life with chronic pain.  People with chronic pain are not faking how they feel or looking for attention or making anything up.  Chronic pain can not be seen but it is felt in more ways than I can count.

I have come a long way in my journey with chronic pain.  I work my ass off to not focus on the pain and do things each day to manage my pain naturally.  This is a very rare post for me as my goal is to show people that there can be a happy life despite chronic pain.  However, this scale is not lying.  I have seen this scale many times and each time it hits me more how strong people who live with chronic pain are.  It also solidifies the fact that the number one reason of death for people with chronic pain is suicide.  If you are having difficulty expressing to your loved ones what you are feeling share my story: it is brutally honest and I willingly wrote things about my journey with chronic pain that I truly never wanted to share with anyone.  If you have chronic pain you are truly a strong ass person.  Just look at this pain scale!  Do not be hard on yourself, you really are doing the best you can.


4 thoughts on “McGill Pain Scale: Chronic Pain NO Joke!

  1. Michele Ritchie says:

    My name is Michele, and I live in Bakersfield CA. I’ve been in severe pain for ten years. At first I was living with it, the majority of the time time I was enduring it, and for the past two years I’ve been suffering from it. I lost my job, medical insurance, and then my money ran out. My options closed. I started to isolate. All I had available to me was pain medication. My total
    existence was to find a position to put my body in where there was less pain. Day and night, minute after minute, I always had to readjust. Last week I tried to put a measure of worth to my life. There was not much at all. I suddenly realized my pain had instilled in a will to die. I was very sad, and the night was very long, but I was ready to go home. I was so tired. And then, somehow I found you! I didn’t know if I had it in me to try again. I sobbed. I whaled. I cried and cried and cried. Its been three or four days now and I am doing so much better. I’m learning to do what you do. Thank you so much. I think you are the most beautiful person in the whole world, and I love you. I will try to write more tomorrow.

    • Hi Michele
      I am beyond happy to hear from you and so happy you came across my blog. DO NOT GIVE UP! I have been where you are right now. I GET IT!!!
      Here is my direct email so you can talk to me and I can hopefully help you in any way possible.
      Hope to hear from you

  2. I can look at others and see beautiful and strong people, but I falter when I look at myself. I deal with my chronic pain every day and I’m so hard on myself.

    How did you get past blaming yourself?

    • I am so happy you asked me this question about blaming myself for chronic pain. Such a great question and I am sure so many people think about that on a daily basis as I once did. Now I know what my next post must be about. I will answer your question in detail in a post today. One thing I can tell you this moment is that being hard on yourself will get you no where. You know you are doing your best and you did not ask to have chronic pain. I swear when I say this as I have written before if you are reading my blog on managing pain naturally you are much stronger than I was ten years ago. I never just say anything to say it. No bullshit. You are much stronger than you think. I get that and you need to as well missy

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