“Are you really going to let fear control your life?”
I have heard about the movie Frozen since it has come out in theatres. I never saw it until recently as my daughter truly does not like TV (my fault as I tried to be super-mom for first half of her two and half year life.) I literally was so ignorant to the movie I thought the snowman (Olof) name was Zoloft (the anti-depressant.) Makes sense now why people looked at me oddly when I said his name. This movie is huge! Now, my daughter has to have the movie on in the background most times we are home, as she loves the music. Cannot blame her….I love the music. It has been almost a month since she began watching Frozen and I have yet to see the entire movie. I have seen most of it but never all the way through. I am telling you, Kayci is just not into watching anything on TV unless she is exhausted or sick. All she ever wants to do is dance if we are indoors. However, I have seen the lessons in this movie that truly impact adults with or without chronic pain. It is the opposite of Sleeping Beauty where she needed a Prince to kiss her to wake her up: let us not teach kids they need a man to save them.
Of course the phrase and song: “Let it Go” is an obvious lesson for all of us that I write about a lot. So many of us, especially those with chronic pain live our life in a state of fear. We sweat the small stuff and miss out on happiness because we rarely live in the moment and are constantly thinking about the next thing we have to do, or think we have to do. I will give you an example of this morning. I usually wake up at four am as from about four to six am is the only time I have alone time where I can practice some of the major tools I use to manage chronic pain: exercise, mindfulness, and writing. Sometimes I am able to juice, get a healthy dinner started in the crock pot and maybe watch a reality television show like Big Brother (no wait, those days are gone…most of the time!) Well, today I began worrying about everything possible that are concerns of mine. I awoke at four am and put on an workout interval program and was about to begin one of my favorite activities. I get to sweat our frustration, move my body, get my heart rate up (proven to help chronic pain symptoms) and aid in stress, anxiety, and over-all well being. This morning when I started to exercise, I automatically thought about silly issues: have not got my reimbursement from my doctor which is over three hundred dollars and I to me that is a good amount of money. I paused the dvd and got on the phone with Aetna which lasted about twenty minutes of my only free time only to find out they were not open until eight am. Ok, put that behind me and un-pause my workout. Then I realize I can go online to check the status of my claim which took me another twenty or so minutes to figure out or in my case not figure out. This was not urgent and did not need to be done at four am. I could have let it go and stuck to my routine. I did my workout but instead of focusing on my enjoyment of the exercise I kept looking at the clock to see if I would have time before my two year old awoke so that I could apply to nanny jobs and hopefully get a post on my blog. I was rushing so much in my mind that nothing really got done aside from a work out I usually enjoy and a few job applications that left me exhausted. Are any of the things we worry about that big of a deal or do we need to let them just go. My dad once said to me when I was in college: “God gives us time so everything does not happen at once.” I need to spend that time not worrying about what I have to do next. Everything gets done at its own pace and if we are constantly thinking about the future, we truly are just not existing.
I truly do believe that most of us live a life allowing fear to control us and the people around us. We are scared of everything! Even I am thinking and fearful about so many things when life has proven to me over and over again that everything always works out. There are some mornings when I awake and I am already scared that I will not be able to fall asleep that night. How ridiculous and yet common is that fear, especially those with chronic pain and anxiety. Living in fear is detrimental to healthy people, much less those of us with chronic pain. Fear, stress. and anxiety are literally the worst things to live constantly with for anyone but it really causes those with chronic pain to get to a very awful point with their management of chronic pain.
Frozen is truly a teachable movie, not to mention the music is amazing for kids and adults, especially adults. If you have seen Frozen, or just bits and pieces like myself watch it again and look and listen to the lessons that can truly teach those of us living with chronic pain.