“So, I guess this is where I tell you what I learned: my conclusion, right? Well, my conclusion is Hate is baggage. Life is too short to be pissed off all the time. It is just not worth it.”
“American History X”
American History X is one of the greatest films I have ever seen, however very difficult to watch at times. All of us with chronic pain truly do not have the energy or time to remain angry and pissed off at people who are a part of our life. I spent a great deal of my life with so much anger towards chronic pain and every doctor who promised to take the pain away. I was filled with hate: hate towards myself, my incurable disease, doctors, and the people whom I loved who did not believe I was suffering because I looked okay on the outside. Now, I have no hatred left for anyone or anything. Sometimes I wish I did not have chronic pain and could leave a “normal’ life (whatever that is) however, this is my life and chronic pain has now taught me to never hate or judge and to feel empathy for people whom I do not even care for.
We all get angry at times, we are human. However, holding onto anger for endless amounts of time is detrimental to your health and well being. Anger takes away your health, happiness, and true self. I do not have an issue with remaining angry at a person or event. I do hold only emotional pain more than I should, which is also detrimental to my management of chronic pain. Anger and emotional pain are close to the same thing. Angry people are most likely hurting and are unable to heal themselves. Sometimes, we must let our anger and hurt go in order to live a happy life. Life is too short to be pissed off all the time. In reality, what are we truly angry about and how is that anger going to make our lives any better? When people piss you off or are mean to you, take a breath and realize they are feeling a pain we know nothing about. Most of my readers have chronic pain. It is understandable to feel anger. However, if you truly want to live a happy life despite chronic pain you must let that anger go. Your life has zero room for anger or resentment. It does not hurt anyone but yourself.
Give the people you love today a hug and let them know you love them, even if you are angry. Life is very short and so much can change within a second. Do not waste another second on your life and well being holding onto anger.