“If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If an egg is broken by an inside force, life begins. Great things always begin from the inside.”
It is very important to focus on yourself and come to terms with the fact that the only person you are able to change is yourself. This past Thursday was Thanksgiving, a day to be thankful for the many blessings each one of us has. Most families, friends, or loved ones eat together and spend time expressing their love and gratitude for one another and focus on the many gifts we each have. What is shocking to me is the following day: Black Friday. A day where all stores have huge sales and savings and people wait outside shop doors to be the first one to buy the best new electronic or toy. I remember a few years ago a pregnant woman from our area was waiting outside a Walmart for the magic doors of Black Friday to open. Once opened, people stampeded into the store knocking anyone in their way, including this very pregnant woman who did end up in the hospital and came close to losing her baby. What purchase, product, or toy is worth losing your values and true gifts: the things that you gave thanks for literally hours before the biggest shopping day in America begins. When I wrote down the things I was grateful for in my last post, not one of those things had any monetary value. How quickly do so many of us forget what is truly important.
No outside force, person, or object can bring you life and joy if you are not happy inside. Any of you with chronic pain know how difficult it is to be happy with any person or gift because your focus is only on the pain. You must put your heath and management of chronic pain first if you do want true happiness and a life you deserve and dream of. No purchase at a store or loved one can bring you the peace and happiness you desire until you work on yourself and begin to put your health first. Most people suffering from chronic pain have slim to no self love. I truly did not love myself at all until I found my way through chronic pain, accepted it, and found ways to manage it without the use of doctors and the search for a cure. It was not until I began loving myself and put my focus on my health that the dreams I had always had began to come to fruition. It is perfectly okay to put your needs and health before anything else. It is not selfish and you should never feel guilty for putting your focus on your invisible illness and finding ways to get to the point of self love. If you are not happy with yourself, it is impossible for you to be happy with anyone else or any gift you receive. I swear for fifteen years when I was asked what I wanted for Christmas, the only thing that ever came to mind was: a cure to my chronic pain. You may not find that cure but you can and will eventually find a way to manage pain and when someone asks you what you want for Christmas, your first thought may be a new yoga outfit or juicer: not a cure. Because one day you will find acceptance and pain will be put on the back burner: one day at a time.