“Whatever you resist you become.”
If you resist anger, you are always angry.
If you resist sadness, you are always sad.
If you resist suffering, you are always suffering.
If you resist confusion, you are always confused.
We think that we resist certain states because they are there, but actually they are there because we resist them.
Someone asked me quite recently to look up and research the term non-resistance. This past Friday night I ended up reading works written by Eckhart Tolle, Abraham (Law of Attraction) and so many different articles I found very easily on the internet. It seems like a very difficult concept to grasp when in fact it is quite simple (difficult, yet simple.) We believe that if we resist something: a person, an illness, grief, or anger it will go away. I mean who wants to be angry. We push down all of these emotions and feelings instead of acknowledging them and not resisting them. If we are able to accept a person, situation, illness, or any life circumstance just as it is, it no longer has power over us.
I will give you an example of how the concept of non-resistance, which I practiced this weekend changed the entire energy surrounding me for the better. I came home Friday and something personal happened that led me to more tears than I can possibly explain. I maybe slept two or three hours Friday night and I am still paying the price for that: I think my eyes are still swollen and let us be honest: that much crying and lack of sleep is obviously going to affect my chronic pain. I cried most of Saturday as well: oh yes, I was a hot mess. When I was unable to sleep again Saturday night because my mind was racing and I was sad, angry, confused, and hurt I decided to start reading Eckhart Tolle’s take on non resistance. Something must have clicked in my mind because I awoke Sunday and decided to create the peace, tranquility, and love I so desire. I practiced yoga and proceeded to send an email to certain family members I felt hurt by and was very angry with. It was a very simple email just asking if some of my loved ones would like to take a walk, visit this dinosaur park my daughter loves, or anything they would like to do to have a good day together. I had decided to accept my pain, anger, confusion, and hurt and allow it to run through me and let it go. Within an hour of writing this email, I was greeted with a hug by one person, happy tears from another and the atmosphere in my home had drastically shifted from negative to positive. It ended up being a great day, one of the greatest I have had with my loved ones in a long time. There was so much joy and positive energy that even my little girl was floating in happiness. If anyone had seen me Friday night an all of Saturday they would not believe the person I was Sunday: Non Resistance.
I started to think about my extremely long journey with chronic pain. And it hit me: I have been practicing non resistance for years when it comes to my invisible illness. The day I accepted chronic pain and began managing it naturally, was the day I began to live as opposed to just surviving. I am not saying this is easy in any way but it sure beats battling, fighting, and resisting reality. This is topic I am sure I will be writing about more. I send all of you light and urge you to just throw two words into Google: Non Resistance.
“Nonresistance, nonjudgement, and nonattachment are the three aspects of true freedom.”