“Well the question is, do I just dump all those unwanted things and start out fresh? And we say, no. You just set the Tone, where you are by looking for things to appreciate. And by setting your Tone in a very clear deliberate way, anything that doesn’t match it gravitates out of your experience, and anything that does match it gravitates into your experience. It is so much simpler than most of you are allowing yourself to believe.”
Are we making things too difficult, too complicated by overthinking every little thing. Quite frankly, yes. Myself included. There are days where I find myself thinking more about my problems and worries instead of focusing on my blessings. My first thought when I awake in the morning usually coincides with worry or fear. Now this is a very difficult thing to change because I am only half awake and it is difficult to control the very first thought you have as you are lying in bed. As most of you know the very first thing I do each morning is exercise and today was no different. I have a cold, no biggie and as much as people tell me to not exercise when sick I have never listened and believe it or not that sweat and kick to anxiety helps both my morning worries and my cold symptoms. *Side note: when I was in my darkest hours of chronic pain I actually wished I was sick with a sinus infection, flu, anything that had a label so I would get those flowers for ‘chronic pain’ so to speak. Anyways, I am no longer in the depths of hell with chronic pain and do not really enjoy being sick, which in essence is a God sent. *
What I most worry about are things out of my control for the most part. Cognitively I know worrying about things out of my control is not only a waste of time but pointless. I do not want to be sad and worry. I want to be happy and expect amazing things to happen. I (we) can only focus on ourselves and our actions/beliefs. Sometimes you just want to get into a persons head and wake them up or have some unbelievable sign from up above that your worries are just worries and your dreams are coming true. I have just dropped everything in my life when things got really bad and tried to start fresh and it never helped anything that was wrong, especially chronic pain. In fact, it made my problems worse. So the question is: what do I do with these unwanted thoughts, worries, and fear? I do what I do with chronic pain. When thoughts of pain enter my mind, I distract myself with something else so that the frequency of my thoughts are no longer on pain but on something I love or enjoy. This method to managing pain took years so I am not expecting a miracle here when it comes to my worries, unwanted, negative thoughts. However, if I am able to distract myself and my mind from the most difficult thing I have ever faced, I am one hundred percent sure I can do the same with my worries, sadness, and fear. As they say: “Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but does not get you very far.” I (we) need to set the tone for what we want NOT what we do not want. I want to be happy, healthy, feel loved and appreciated, and make my remaining dreams come true. If I act as if these things are already here and happening, the Universe will begin to align my above desires with actual truth. It is all about changing out thoughts: a negative thought arises, we find something positive to think of. There are times this is extremely difficult. Why? Because we are human and our minds are very powerful. We can get stuck in a rut of negative thinking that becomes a downward spiral into sadness and hopelessness. This may happen, however you bounce back. Trust me, I am the biggest worrier you may ever meet: #truth.
Try something this weekend and I will as well: with each worry or negative thought that enters your mind, whether it be about yourself or someone you care for quickly distract your mind onto something that makes you happy. Two days we have in a weekend. Let us try and do this together. We all deserve to be happy: happiness comes from within and the first step is changing out thought patterns.