“You wanna hurt me? Go right ahead if it makes you feel any better. I’m an easy target. Yea, you’re right I talk too much, I also listen too much. I could be a cold hearted cynic like you but I don’t like to hurt other people’s feelings. Well, you think what you want about me, I’m not changing. I like me, my wife likes me, my customers like me. ‘Cause I’m the real article. What you see is what you get.”
Planes Trains, and Automobiles: Directed by John Hughes with Steve Martin and John Candy 1987
The one tradition we have always had in our family is watching the classic film: “Planes, Trains and Automobiles.” My dad, my grandmother La La and I watched this movie every year on Thanksgiving Day. Since our daughter has come to into this world and my La La has passed, this tradition has gone by the waist side. If you have yet to see this film, I highly recommend it. Yes, for many of you 1987 may seem so long ago that it would be impossible to find a movie that is both hilarious and heart warming but you are just going to have to trust me. Hey, I love the movies of the 2000’s as well (have we figured out a term for each decade since the new Millenium?” This movie is about love and acceptance. I have learned many lessons from this movie and quote the funny lines many times monthly. We all face challenges in our lifetime and we are all fighting battles the world may know nothing about. Thanksgiving is a time for forgiveness and acceptance. My close friend told our kids today: “You cannot have Christmas before Thanksgiving for we must give back first.” Your loved ones who have chronic pain truly do not want presents or as I say: ‘flower for chronic pain’ a metaphor I came up with ten years ago. Your loved ones just want you to say three magic words: “I believe you.” We all just want to be loved, appreciated, and if not understood: believed.
I hope you all have an amazing holiday and try and find one thing to be grateful for. I know chronic pain has taken over so much of your lives that at times it is hard to find anything to feel good about but one day you will look back and be filled with gratitude and peace and wonder: “How the hell did I make it through that battle?” I am always here for you and I am grateful for all of you for reading my writings and fighting a battle that I understand but most do not. You are all so much stronger than you think.